Sunday, September 11, 2011
Finally!
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Been awhile since i've blogged.
Recently bought a new pc, so spent some time migrating stuff into it and doing abit of e-springcleaning.
Came across some stuff that others have written before. Funny how completely different people can say things that are so alike.
In fact, I think we all go through pretty much the same shit/stages in life, don't we? The events may be different, but how we feel/think more or less can be relatable. Well, if all of us are so damn special/unique, counsellors and shrinks would be outta jobs cause they wouldn't have a basis for reference or comparision.
Here are some of my thoughts on some of the typical things that people say when their heads are wrapped in fluffy pink clouds of love, or the damp musky blanket of self-pity.
Of course, as with life, nothing is absolute and there are always exceptions. But what makes you so sure you're the 0.01%?
Loosely quoting the book/movie, "He's Just Not That Into You"- always assume yoú're the majority and the norm.
#1 - You are the love of my life.
Ok to be fair, I think she/he probably IS the love of your life at that point in time, assuming you aren't hung up over another person from the past.
And you know how, especially at the end of a relationship, people will make dramatic declarations like,
I'll never love another person
I'll always love you
I can't live without you
Yada yada...yeah right. If I've learned anything at all, it's to never believe this and let this be the reason for not leaving someone, thinking that the person will love you forever. Cause odds are, he/she will move on. And in today's day and age, it usually happens pretty fast. The worse kinds are those that are already involved with someone post-breakup and still profess such ramblings. Like, seriously, can't you be honest to save your life?
Anyway, if he/she was so in love with you, how could he/she do something to make you wanna leave?
#2 - I can't help falling in love with you
This is a great excuse for people to get away with making stupid mistakes, like getting involved with someone that's taken.
Helloooo....sure you can help it.
Come on, that's the key difference between humans and animals. We are supposed to be the more evolved species that can make rational decisions, and not just go by pure instincts.
Don't get me wrong. I totally believe and support that you can love/lust whomever you want to (Been there done that!). But if it means that someone is gonna get hurt by you being with this person, you have the CHOICE to walk away, love in silence, or fuckwhoeverstandsinmyway-I'm-just-gonna-get-some-lovin'.
If yours is the third option, just remember that karma always comes back 3-fold (at least).
#3 - If I get another chance I'll never let you go (or screw it up again)
You had your chance. Why'd you go and screw it up in the first place?
Must be because you think we're not important enough, or that you can get away with it, or that you had a better option elsewhere.
So, screw you.
What do you think this is - "Who wants to be a millionaire"?
No lifelines. The time is now, cherish the moment.
#4 - It was a stupid mistake
So suck it up and learn from it.
It's like trying to appeal to your lecturer against a fail grade. Being persistant just makes you sound desperate.
If you're really really really sorry, then don't just say it. PROVE IT.
Do something worthy of Singapore's Got Talent, or is Twitter/Youtube-worthy, or at the very least can bowl even my most cynical best friend over.
Saying you are sorry, just doesn't sound sorry at all.
#5 - Their relationship is on the rocks
This is the number one reason people give when they are getting involved with someone else.
Yes, people have their problems, Yes, the relationship is probably going to end. Yes, the poor guy/girl probably needs you very much right now.
But what do YOU need? Certainly not more drama in your life right?
Do you need to have some crazy psycho bitch/jerk plastering your Facebook wall with insults, confront you at the workplace/home or worse still, threaten your life? Don't think that's not possible, cause you should always be prepared for the worse-case scenario.
Do you need to have to deal with all the baggage from his/her past relationship while trying to build the foundations of your new one?
Do you need to be with someone who has no qualms about keeping you a secret from his other partner?
Do you need to start a relationship wondering if he's ever going to do the same behind YOUR back?
Do you need to think about how you are sharing your partner with someone else? I mean, if you don't approve of people that double-dip sauces, how can you live with sharing body parts (can someone say eww)?
Do you really need to have it weighing on your conscience that you broke up a relationship or marriage, maybe even caused some kid to grow up without one parent? Seriously, can you live with that?
Come on, life's tough enough as it is. Why make it tougher on yourself and turn it into a freaking soap opera? No matter how well you play the role of the suffering mistress'/ noble heroine, you ain't getting an Oscar baby. Why not make life easier on yourself?
Besides, if their relationship is really on the rocks, he/she can come back after they've broken it off. By then, you'd hopefully have him/her all to yourself. And if he/she doesn't break it off afterall, then hey, you just saved yourself alot of heartache.
Damn, sure feels good to rant in awhile.
Recently bought a new pc, so spent some time migrating stuff into it and doing abit of e-springcleaning.
Came across some stuff that others have written before. Funny how completely different people can say things that are so alike.
In fact, I think we all go through pretty much the same shit/stages in life, don't we? The events may be different, but how we feel/think more or less can be relatable. Well, if all of us are so damn special/unique, counsellors and shrinks would be outta jobs cause they wouldn't have a basis for reference or comparision.
Here are some of my thoughts on some of the typical things that people say when their heads are wrapped in fluffy pink clouds of love, or the damp musky blanket of self-pity.
Of course, as with life, nothing is absolute and there are always exceptions. But what makes you so sure you're the 0.01%?
Loosely quoting the book/movie, "He's Just Not That Into You"- always assume yoú're the majority and the norm.
#1 - You are the love of my life.
Ok to be fair, I think she/he probably IS the love of your life at that point in time, assuming you aren't hung up over another person from the past.
And you know how, especially at the end of a relationship, people will make dramatic declarations like,
I'll never love another person
I'll always love you
I can't live without you
Yada yada...yeah right. If I've learned anything at all, it's to never believe this and let this be the reason for not leaving someone, thinking that the person will love you forever. Cause odds are, he/she will move on. And in today's day and age, it usually happens pretty fast. The worse kinds are those that are already involved with someone post-breakup and still profess such ramblings. Like, seriously, can't you be honest to save your life?
Anyway, if he/she was so in love with you, how could he/she do something to make you wanna leave?
#2 - I can't help falling in love with you
This is a great excuse for people to get away with making stupid mistakes, like getting involved with someone that's taken.
Helloooo....sure you can help it.
Come on, that's the key difference between humans and animals. We are supposed to be the more evolved species that can make rational decisions, and not just go by pure instincts.
Don't get me wrong. I totally believe and support that you can love/lust whomever you want to (Been there done that!). But if it means that someone is gonna get hurt by you being with this person, you have the CHOICE to walk away, love in silence, or fuckwhoeverstandsinmyway-I'm-just-gonna-get-some-lovin'.
If yours is the third option, just remember that karma always comes back 3-fold (at least).
#3 - If I get another chance I'll never let you go (or screw it up again)
You had your chance. Why'd you go and screw it up in the first place?
Must be because you think we're not important enough, or that you can get away with it, or that you had a better option elsewhere.
So, screw you.
What do you think this is - "Who wants to be a millionaire"?
No lifelines. The time is now, cherish the moment.
#4 - It was a stupid mistake
So suck it up and learn from it.
It's like trying to appeal to your lecturer against a fail grade. Being persistant just makes you sound desperate.
If you're really really really sorry, then don't just say it. PROVE IT.
Do something worthy of Singapore's Got Talent, or is Twitter/Youtube-worthy, or at the very least can bowl even my most cynical best friend over.
Saying you are sorry, just doesn't sound sorry at all.
#5 - Their relationship is on the rocks
This is the number one reason people give when they are getting involved with someone else.
Yes, people have their problems, Yes, the relationship is probably going to end. Yes, the poor guy/girl probably needs you very much right now.
But what do YOU need? Certainly not more drama in your life right?
Do you need to have some crazy psycho bitch/jerk plastering your Facebook wall with insults, confront you at the workplace/home or worse still, threaten your life? Don't think that's not possible, cause you should always be prepared for the worse-case scenario.
Do you need to have to deal with all the baggage from his/her past relationship while trying to build the foundations of your new one?
Do you need to be with someone who has no qualms about keeping you a secret from his other partner?
Do you need to start a relationship wondering if he's ever going to do the same behind YOUR back?
Do you need to think about how you are sharing your partner with someone else? I mean, if you don't approve of people that double-dip sauces, how can you live with sharing body parts (can someone say eww)?
Do you really need to have it weighing on your conscience that you broke up a relationship or marriage, maybe even caused some kid to grow up without one parent? Seriously, can you live with that?
Come on, life's tough enough as it is. Why make it tougher on yourself and turn it into a freaking soap opera? No matter how well you play the role of the suffering mistress'/ noble heroine, you ain't getting an Oscar baby. Why not make life easier on yourself?
Besides, if their relationship is really on the rocks, he/she can come back after they've broken it off. By then, you'd hopefully have him/her all to yourself. And if he/she doesn't break it off afterall, then hey, you just saved yourself alot of heartache.
Damn, sure feels good to rant in awhile.
Friday, February 18, 2011
Monday, January 03, 2011
FAREWELL 2010, HULLO 2011!!!
So 2010 went by in a flash, still in the holiday mood (without actually going on holiday), and now it's the start of a brand new year!
I guess 2010 has been good to me in many many ways. Just thought of taking a moment to count my blessings.
1. Everyone at home is happy + healthy.
Happy to see Minmin + WR doing well in US, and Minmin growing into her own person as a parent. Really thankful they got a chance to spread their wings in the US.Seeing ZZ grow up day by day is one of our regular obsessions. Now I know why people always say children are god's gift, cos ZZ has just brought so much joy + excitement to our lives. Am glad also that mum's temper has mellowed abit, not so many outbursts at home. Am extra extra happy to be closer to Dajie now, and that she also on good terms with J. It's always nice when everybody gets along :)2. Finally finished repaying my Tuition Fee Loan!
Really no joke repaying a $15k loan as a struggling newbie in the job market. But I'm proud that I've put myself through Uni, and that I paid off the loans by my own efforts.
3. New Boss!
Re-org at work was a rather painful process, but I'm glad that my new boss seems to be an intelligent + capable man. Looking forward to learning more from him!
4. Grumpy + Sunshine :)
Things with J has been wonderful still, and I'm thankful for everyday of love, joy + laughter. Experience taught me not to take things for granted, but faith reminds me to trust the now + tomorrows. Looking forward to many many more beautiful chapters.
5. All my friends
May have lost touch with some old friends this year, but I guess life is such that when our paths no longer converge, it's only natural to follow the currents + drift away. For the extra special people in my life, Zoeline, Joan, Shuxin, I'd always go out on a limb to stay in touch. Of course, there are the awesome groupies, my Spices, my work friends (fiends) + LJR, all of whom fill my days up with lotsa smiles + laughter.
6. Leen's Wedding
It was really a special moment to spend with J. It's always nice to be a part of that special moment of your someone special, and indeed was a priviledge to be asked to be a jie-mei. Thankful also that this helped me get to know Looney + Rascal better, cause they are just such nice + fun people! Looking forward to more fun-scapades with them :)
7. Awesome friends at work!
My fav peeps who help tide through the humdrum of everyday office life + tribulations. V (boohoo) was indeed a great loss to all of us when she left, and hopefully we'll keep in touch. Chow is just the person to count on for anything, always obliging, always cheeky (haha). Mel is the unexpected one, the one I never thought I could click with, but I'm blessed to have known her better for she's definitely a keeper!
8. Love is in the air!
Really super duper wuper happy for Joan, that she has found a great guy, and someone who has been there all the while! For once, I truly think he deserves her. Hopefully their love story will go on for a long long time, with a beautiful ending for these two beautiful people, both inside + outside. Gotta start preparing those wedding ang pows!!!
9. Work it!
Proud of myself to have taken up gym membership. Gonna make sure I put those hard-earned bucks to good use!
10. Thankful for being me. :)
As Henry Ford said, " Whether you think that you can, or that you can't, you are usually right.".
I want to think that I can, even when it seems like I can't. Nothing sinks a boat faster than a doomsday attidude.
And...drumroll....
My 2011 Resolutions.
1. Be at work by 10 am everyday.
(Ok, except legit time-off days!) My office is actually quite lenient about this, and I kinda abuse it quite abit. Time to zi-dong before I get blasted!
2. Stop saying I'm fat.
Ok, so I've reaaaaaally grown. Yeah, no one is more bothered about that than me. But as J always says, the more I harp on it the more I bring attention to it. Of course, this doesn't mean I'm just gonna let myself go, but I think it's better to put that energy to doing something about it, than just whining about it. So, yeah!
3. Hit the gym at least once a week.
Thank god for Melisa to motivate me. Twice is the target!
4. Get insurance!
Like finally.
5. Save at least $3k by year end.
Not counting short term savings. This is the untouchable! + I'm hoping to put aside 10% of my bonus to this. *fingers crossed*
So yeah, those are my goals for the year. All very S.M.A.R.T!
Jiayou jiayou!!!
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Kayaking in stormy seas
So many storms lately,
Threatening to overturn my small kayak.
When will there be lasting calm waters,
And not just another eye of the storm.
Looking forward to the simple life, once again.
Threatening to overturn my small kayak.
When will there be lasting calm waters,
And not just another eye of the storm.
Looking forward to the simple life, once again.
Monday, November 08, 2010
I GOT PUBLISHED!!!
Haha ok, so it was just a letter, not a column, but still! Not bad right! *beams*
The story is, the zoo ran this uber fantastic Halloween Horrors event during October, and some people wrote in to the press to say that it was (1) too scary for the kids, and (2) not helping to promote awareness + education of wildlife.
Roll eyes.
This is so typical of Singaporeans. To cry bloody murder just because they don't like something. Everything has to be so squeaky clean, so...sanitised.
Give us a break, please. It's your own life decision to have kids, not ours. Please don't impose your preferences/needs on the whole world and make everything under the sun (+ moon!) family friendly.
Anyway, the event was held after dark. Aren't your kids supposed to be in bed anyways?
Fact is, consumers have a choice. Parents who think, and rightly so, that the event would not be suitable for their kids should just not go for it.
And if you wanna go for an "excursion", you should have done your homework in the first place to see if there's anything special going on that week. I always do that before going to the zoo, science centre, etc.
It just shows your lack of good judgement if you decide to go anyway, then write to the press to complain about it.
Personally, I think the Halloween Horrors event is a fantastic week for young people to cut loose, scream our heads off, and get to know abit more about wildlife in a fun + exciting way.
Looking forward to it next year!!!
PS: I cc-ed the zoo corp comms in my letter, and they wrote a very nice thank you reply...such nice peeps :)
Haha ok, so it was just a letter, not a column, but still! Not bad right! *beams*
The story is, the zoo ran this uber fantastic Halloween Horrors event during October, and some people wrote in to the press to say that it was (1) too scary for the kids, and (2) not helping to promote awareness + education of wildlife.
Roll eyes.
This is so typical of Singaporeans. To cry bloody murder just because they don't like something. Everything has to be so squeaky clean, so...sanitised.
Give us a break, please. It's your own life decision to have kids, not ours. Please don't impose your preferences/needs on the whole world and make everything under the sun (+ moon!) family friendly.
Anyway, the event was held after dark. Aren't your kids supposed to be in bed anyways?
Fact is, consumers have a choice. Parents who think, and rightly so, that the event would not be suitable for their kids should just not go for it.
And if you wanna go for an "excursion", you should have done your homework in the first place to see if there's anything special going on that week. I always do that before going to the zoo, science centre, etc.
It just shows your lack of good judgement if you decide to go anyway, then write to the press to complain about it.
Personally, I think the Halloween Horrors event is a fantastic week for young people to cut loose, scream our heads off, and get to know abit more about wildlife in a fun + exciting way.
Looking forward to it next year!!!
PS: I cc-ed the zoo corp comms in my letter, and they wrote a very nice thank you reply...such nice peeps :)
Monday, October 04, 2010
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